Few days ago, read Thought For The Day – “Virginity” on Sakshi’s Blog; It stated that:
“Virginity is not dignity…not security…or not a sign of purity…It is simply lack of opportunity…”
First of all let’s see that what does this word “Virginity” means for a common man: according to Wikipedia and Dictionary.com, “Virginity means the state or condition of being pure.”
These days, lots of people have been influenced by the Western Culture and they may think Virginity as a lack of opportunity but I definitely don’t believe in this logic… Some people might even say “Virginity? It’s a big issue over a small tissue...”
I don’t see any benefits in losing one’s virginity because some people think it as a happening thing or because they believe that one hasn’t got an opportunity to do so… For me, it’s one’s own life and one should decide accordingly, what they should do and shouldn’t decide on the basis of what others think…
The coin always has two sides: One group will say it’s good to experience such a thing like losing virginity but the other side will always be firm in saying that one should wait for the right time i.e. till their marriage…
But I would like to mention one thing, especially for the people who aren’t Virgins themselves that kindly don’t expect your partners to be Virgins when you are not one… I simply mean to say that people who have slept or continue sleeping with others shouldn’t expect that their spouses to be pure and also that they shouldn’t slept with others… Generally we find men sleeping with other women but at the same time they can’t tolerate their wives having a relationship with someone else…
At the moment, Virginity is not that big issue, to have a debate or fight over it but then too it’s an issue related to oneself, one’s culture, traditions and belief’s… I’m not saying that Virginity is good or bad; but I’m just trying to make a point that before taking any step, do think on your own and not on the fact that what others have to say about you…
“Virginity is not dignity…not security…or not a sign of purity…It is simply lack of opportunity…”
First of all let’s see that what does this word “Virginity” means for a common man: according to Wikipedia and Dictionary.com, “Virginity means the state or condition of being pure.”
These days, lots of people have been influenced by the Western Culture and they may think Virginity as a lack of opportunity but I definitely don’t believe in this logic… Some people might even say “Virginity? It’s a big issue over a small tissue...”
I don’t see any benefits in losing one’s virginity because some people think it as a happening thing or because they believe that one hasn’t got an opportunity to do so… For me, it’s one’s own life and one should decide accordingly, what they should do and shouldn’t decide on the basis of what others think…
The coin always has two sides: One group will say it’s good to experience such a thing like losing virginity but the other side will always be firm in saying that one should wait for the right time i.e. till their marriage…
But I would like to mention one thing, especially for the people who aren’t Virgins themselves that kindly don’t expect your partners to be Virgins when you are not one… I simply mean to say that people who have slept or continue sleeping with others shouldn’t expect that their spouses to be pure and also that they shouldn’t slept with others… Generally we find men sleeping with other women but at the same time they can’t tolerate their wives having a relationship with someone else…
At the moment, Virginity is not that big issue, to have a debate or fight over it but then too it’s an issue related to oneself, one’s culture, traditions and belief’s… I’m not saying that Virginity is good or bad; but I’m just trying to make a point that before taking any step, do think on your own and not on the fact that what others have to say about you…
7 comments:
Well I agree with you on that.
It is a personal issue.
And ya if u arent virgin..shuldnt expect ur wife to be either..right said
Hi dear,
controversial somewhat..
well, you are right in the sense that its a personal matter but in a country like our's where every body is more interested in other's life that thier own, it has been proved curse..
There's always a discrimination made between men and women and it always will..
Things are changing, but will take a bit more time..
Anyways, take care
Hey,
That was a very nice way of putting across things. When i read the topic of ur blog, I was wondering what this may lead to. I was curious to know your stand on this.
I agree with you whole-heartedly in this - that it is one's own call and that for some, it may be a big deal, while for some its nothing! This also has a lot to do with the kind of environment u have grown up in.
Also, you raised a very valid point when you said, that a guy who is not a virgin, should not expect a virgin wife!
And to tell u the truth, I found the definition of virignity as "lack of opportunity" quite appalling! But, I gues, some do think it that way!
My comment got lost :(
The coin got two side is the punch line, as mentioned by others it is 100% personal Choice. First of most I am married and I don’t agree with either” Virginity is dignity” or “Its lack of opportunity” it is purely your choice based on your knowledge. Religion, customs, dignity, opportunity or experiment have nothing to do with it.
My first question to all virgins is how would you know it’s the right time? It happens before marriage only if there is understanding, crush or attraction. I can post number of question where virgins won’t be able to answer any of them but I am not trying to make them look bad. What I am trying to say is whether you’re virgin or sexually active you both deserve equal respect.
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hey anshul gr88 topic.... man gud work done and splyy i loved ths one line "It’s a big issue over a small tissue." hahaah.. and i too agree that losing virgrinity shld be one own mind decision... it shld be done under teh influence of peers... or trend or everybody is doing it..it cool... thats all so stupid.... and i also agrree ths case sply for guys u lik to taste waters everywhere bt would ultimately like to gett married to a seedhi sadhi types... i mean "pureeeee" gurll gurrrrr.... so ppl lets nt be hiprocratesss...
This is still an issue? Wow!! I thought youngsters these days are losing it as early as 12-13! Also, with the average age of tying the knot for urban Indian moving close to 30, is it really expected that a red-blooded man or woman working side by side at all odd hours of the day will wait till suhag raat to experience something that has become a commodity freely peddled by the media??
BTW, this is my first visit to your blog. Looks very promising! Will be back to reda more later :)
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